We are truly loving when we care about another person without considering what they can do for us.

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Why is this important? People can tell when you're being loving in order to get something from them. They may not know it consciously, but deep down, they know. This is called Imitation Love. 

We typically use imitation love when we are drowning—feeling unloved, not cared for, ignored or lonely. When we're drowning all we think about is saving ourselves and getting air.

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So how do we stop using imitation love and start really loving?

Telling the truth about ourselves is scary. We often wear personas to conceal what makes us feel vulnerable.

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When we tell the truth about ourselves to people, we give them the opportunity to accept us for who we REALLY are.